Ok I have very little family contact, what I do have is questionable at best. With that question, I am constantly asking myself why I even bother?
That contact is superficial on a good day, and I am not a superficial person, so that really eats away at me.
Topics of conversations revolve around the weather, or what I can do for them. They do not care or inquire about me.
My brother has the communication skills of a 1st grader, and plucks my nerves… he thinks he is funny and or intelligent, but neither actually surface. He has no interest in who I am, and last saw me about 2 1/2 decades, so he would not know me if he ran over me.
An aunt who I think I have contact with more on a pity basis, due to her non-existant relationship with my non-existant father. But she is another one who has no clue anything about me, and I have met all of once in my life. Somehow she is also my godmother, which can trickle off into a whole other discussion (about meaningless things).
A cousin, who does not talk to me, but wants to have contact.. which I think if we were face to face would be more like a staring contest, if I could get eye-contact. In other words.. nada.
I struggled to gain contact with other relatives that just ended up being pointless, so I stopped bothering… does not seem any of them noticed (years later). But heck they did not know if I was in the room when I was around them, some had no idea who I was if they did notice me (and that was at a couple Christmases where I saw them, when I was a kid).
So why do I bother? What point, purpose and value does having contact with people who have no other connection then possibly being somehow related (that point I constantly question). I could have a more involved relationship with someone in a grocery check out line.